Tucker, if you want help ... just ask.

Previously on Songs Tucker Wrote I told you about my Jars Project. It's official, it's started. I asked a group of artists if they'd like to take part and they said yes. All I had to do was ask.

I could have talked myself hoarse, with as much passion as the project creates in me. I could have waived my arms and sang the song. I could have filled them with excitement about the project and waited for them to offer their talents. I probably would have been waiting a while.

People are made to be chosen all the time - Wait to be chosen in line at the bank. Wait to be chosen for a record label. Wait to be chosen to for the Red Rover game. It's the greatest playground fear to be chosen last. But who likes to put their hand up? We love to be acknowledged with being chosen but hate to look show-offy by volunteering.

I waited quite a while to be chosen. To have someone say my music was good enough to be put in an album. To say my story ideas were good enough to be made into kids books. Once I decided to complete those projects I guaranteed I would never be chosen last. I put myself in the position of the chooser and as such I have to ask who wants to be on my team. I can't simply wait for people to volunteer, they are probably on the other side of the playground waiting to be asked. Or they are hoping I don't ask 'cause then they'd have to say 'no'.

I'd rather they said no to me when I asked than have them not volunteer when they did want to take part. That being said if you'd like to join us contact me, we'll be glad to have more friends in the project. 

Is there a project you need help with? Choose yourself first then ask someone to help, if you're passionate enough, they'll probably say yes.

Tucker, just start writing ...

Last week there was no blog post. I had, in the week previous, written a blog post called Success Is What You Say It Is. Now, I don't have a huge readership yet but I usually get a comment or two and a small spike in my traffic. But when I checked my stats, that success post had two unique visitors. Disheartened me a liitle bit. 

When it came time to write last week's post I remembered my two readers and thought "Eh, I'll do one later. Who's gonna notice if I don't have one?" I found reasons to NOT write a post. I wrote a post a few weeks back about Finding The Reason To Say Yes and still found the easy reasons to say no. I wrote If You Want To Do Something You Have To Do Something and still did nothing.

I'm a smart guy I should take my own advice. 

This week I still couldn't think of anything to write about so I took some old writing course advice that goes something like "If you can't think what to write ... Don't think just write."

This week's post may not change your life and I may only have three people read it but it's done and I won't have that one-more-thing-I-should-do on my mind for the rest of the week. I have enough of those. 

Is there a blank canvas next to your paint box? Do you hear a melody in your head? Do you have an idea for a story but can't come up with that first line? Just start painting, singing or writing. The worst that can happen is you figure out what you could do differently next time. I can guarentee you'll feel better for doing it.

Tucker, when are you going to live in the now?

I seem to go through these fits of Just-Doing-It-Ness, usually brought on by a long bought of I'll-Do-It-Later-Ness. I've just finished a couple months of the Doing-ness and can feel a little of the Later-ness creeping around1

I always hear people giving advice like "Learn to live in the now." Unfortunately it's just so easy to say "I'll live in the now ... tomorrow."


1For example, I almost cancelled this post and said "I'll do it later." I have to hurry up and finish so I don't change my mind.